Baljit and tim have had difficulty adjusting to being parents. they argue constantly about what activities they are going to do with their children and hate their weekends because they are spent with each of them taking turns playing with the kids to give the other parent a break. their therapist points out that one reason they might be so frustrated and argue so much is that the way they have been structuring their weekends leaves them little time to nurture their relationship or to be together as a family. the arguments and frustration are signals that they value and love each other and want to connect more as a couple and as a family. what technique has the therapist used?